Any ideas out there? Greg has attachment issues, I wouldn't say RAD levels. Anyways he is on some new meds and doing really well. He earned tons of priviledges the last couple of weeks (after a horendous month), but at his bday celebration he ran off. Typicall for him when he was found, he ranted at foster mom saying he didn't want to come home or live with them, etc. It was better this time because when he came back from respite over the weekend he wasn't all attitude. He was able to talk to his foster dad afterwards about how he jsut didn't know what to do with the feeling of being wanted. Anyways I'm wondering if any of you awesome moms have any ideas to help with this behavior. Still looking at adoption for him with this family which is a relief because 3 times this past month looked like he would blow it. He has too much power in this situation, but fotunately was able to decrease that a bit and help him maintain the placement. I do think that finalizing the relationship will help and make things rougher all at the same time.
This is my blog so I can whine all I want. I'm tired. I'm falling further behind and there is no end in sight. I don't know how much longer I can last. I don't know that I'm able to provide the casework that needs to be done on each of my cases. I ponder what my road should be from here. There is some good news. I got all my homevisits in for last month before the 10th. Whoohoo go me. A couple of other cases have come to resolutions which while not perfect, are good and thats an outcome I can be greatful for!
Openness is... Inviting Love In.
4 years ago
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Can you be more specific on Greg?
Hang in there and keep breathing. Do what you can, when you can do it, just don't quit.
Our kids need you.
My son has MAJOR issues about birthdays and celebrations. It has nothing to do with being adopted but all to do with having RAD...the anticipation is just not something he can handle. Control (needing it, wanting it, not having it) is paramount. We have canceled a birthday party due to to ramping up behavior leading to it. His fears? He doesn't know if he'll like the gifts the guests bring, can't predict how each child will act during the party, doesn't think he can keep it together for the length of the party,etc. Even though this kid has had some awesome birthdays and had a great time at them...as he gets older, it gets harder. For the boy you are talking about, I would think that birthdays (and any holidays) would bring up birth family thoughts as he's not in a permanent situation.
I know now to tell him exactly what is in each gift under the tree (with a few little surprises in his stocking) because the not knowing he's getting what he most wants just drives him to kill the joy in the season. This year, it will be very different because he's in residential and I'm not sure how that is going to play out.
Ditto to what Lisa said, please stay in the "biz" because the children need advocates that care.
Miss you....
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