tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8741044909128961634.post5574356521724440773..comments2023-10-18T02:12:21.357-07:00Comments on Musings of an Evil Social Worker: breathe deeplyevil social workerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05771316439711807068noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8741044909128961634.post-58369282880888886042010-01-23T22:11:45.739-08:002010-01-23T22:11:45.739-08:00Jan 24 2010
My husband and I are on the wrong end...Jan 24 2010<br /><br />My husband and I are on the wrong end of horrible situation. We were Kinship Placement for our grandaughter. She is 6 1/2 years old and has just removed from our home where she spent 2 months with us. I believe this newest one is her 7th foster home. She tells us of the abuse she received while in one of them. Our granddaughter of course has been molested more than once, as have most foster kids.<br /><br />Our mentally ill and Rx and illegal drug abusing daughter had told us and her daughter she was going to give up her rights. It was recommended by her lawyer that we get a private attorney and file for a private adoption, which we did. St Francis was thrilled about the adoption and backed it one hundred percent to our faces. Our granddaughter's counselor and St Francis said we were doing wonderful with our grandaughter. <br /><br />We were fools to believe she would actually go through with letting us adopt her special needs daughter. Since our granddaughters birth, our daughter has promised lots of people they could adopt her. Some of them believed it, but we were the only ones who actually filed.<br /><br />When our daughter found out she was not going to be allowed by us to continue to have unsupervised visits on both Sat and Sun every weekend, while her law breaking friends who aren't able to pass back round checks, visited her house and played with her daughter, and she would not be allowed to go to the school and have lunches with her daughter and continue to have the same visiting rights as before the adoption or many many more 'rights'. She thought she would have her daughter for the entire summer and four days a week, saying "It will be and open adoption and it will be just like a divorced couple", she changed her mind. <br /><br />When we went to court very shortly after her mind change, she told her lawyer she NOW wanted to "work the program" and get her daughter back. She may have been clean for about four days by that time. The judge gave her four more months to accomplish her goal.<br /><br /> St Francis came and took our granddaughter away from us and put her in another foster home. I guess, as I listen to the tidbits different people in the system give me, it may have been because she was too happy and was feeling too secure in our stable and structured setting, causing divided loyalties which had to stop for her mother to have accomplish her goal. We had told her she was never going to another foster home and she would live with us until she was grown. She kept saying "I want to live with my mom." Our daughter had said, as documented by the person who took our granddaughter form her mom's home, "I might as well kill my daughter." This statement was made just before she was hospitalized with needle marks found on her body.<br /><br /> St Francis said we were 'sabotaging their reintegration'. The adoption was supposed to be filed for and the papers were supposed to have been signed by her mom to avoid the court hearing at least a week before the hearing, so the hearing was never supposed to happen. We feel very sabotaged by our own daughter.<br /><br /> This will now be the fourth school system our granddaughter will be in this year. How can all of this be in our granddaughter's 'Best Interest?' Our daughter has all the rights and our grandaughter has non and is forced to suffer now even more because of her mothers continued poor choices.<br /><br />I want to file a law suet against someone, and I am dealing with my many strong horrible feeling regarding the matter. I fear greatly for my grandaughter. I Pray for us all.Crinkleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05393015942281199726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8741044909128961634.post-69640764581633730942009-03-25T20:13:00.000-07:002009-03-25T20:13:00.000-07:00I am so amazed by what you handle! It was good fo...I am so amazed by what you handle! It was good for me to read this tonight. I have had a rough week with my emotions going everywhere worrying about Baby A and now having my heart tugged by "little Edwards" parents. They are doing so great so far and yet the world seems to be against them. I am praying they stay strong. But what you see everyday beats what I go through. I think you should go get an iceberg shake! :) sugar is always the fix right?SmallAdventureshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08993267241606514697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8741044909128961634.post-67764789136334560342009-03-25T18:51:00.000-07:002009-03-25T18:51:00.000-07:00I know exactly how it feels to try not to feel res...I know exactly how it feels to try not to feel responsible when a placement has to change. It sucks. I have no great advice - just wanted to let you know someone else has felt that way.<BR/><BR/>And, I love the COW awards!Rachie317https://www.blogger.com/profile/14646338773104987972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8741044909128961634.post-82305694244219513232009-03-25T14:43:00.000-07:002009-03-25T14:43:00.000-07:00My heart goes out to Sister and Little Guy. They ...My heart goes out to Sister and Little Guy. They really pull my heart strings. I hope you are able to find a permanent home for both of them.Tuduhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02905378586653219136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8741044909128961634.post-2267365254348415172009-03-25T08:46:00.000-07:002009-03-25T08:46:00.000-07:00Glad to hear from you.Keep breathing....things wil...Glad to hear from you.<BR/><BR/>Keep breathing....things will work out.....Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16146320008307628429noreply@blogger.com